General advice on corresponding

Written by Paul Gayeski  of JustSayHi.com

 
 

General advice on corresponding with our ladies

Remember these ladies are real human beings with wants, needs, natures of their own. Because you purchase a ladies address and society views her as a mail order bride don't think she is a slave or stupid or looking for the best deal. These women are looking for real love, friendship and a good healthy relationship. However, if a lady is asking you for money or gifts an alarm should go off in your head. If she's trying to make you feel inadequate unless you do things for her or give her somethings ask yourself if that's the kind of life you want to have? There are always a few bad apples in every barrel but most of the women are very good and sincere!

Don't promote or introduce yourself as so and so that has this inventory of useful qualities. Try writing from the heart and be yourself.

Sincerity attracts sincerity and insincerity tends to attract insincerity. Inventory yourself and what you're really all about 1st. If all you're doing is trying to get a fantasy satisfied or make love once in your life to a beautiful women or avoid being alone at all cost, how long to you think that kind of relationship will last? What kind of a communicator are you? What can you do to improve your ability to communicate with others and express yourself in healthy ways?
Think about how this will impact the rest of your life? How well will you adapt to her? How will your friends, family, worldly association react to this? How will you explain it? Will you be comfortable with this yourself?

Think about what it must be like for her? It's a big change of life for her. What will she be giving up? How well will she adapt to you?
When you have established a relationship with one of our ladies keep thinking! Is it real and realistic has it happened too fast? Are either of you saying things that are more wishful thinking than reality? How much difference is there between the 2 of you? How might her background in life effect her or your relationship? Have you been honest and true to yourself?

Plan to work on good communications together and as individuals. What support services might each of you need?
What are your long term goals together? Long term planning can help a lot to keep short term issues in perspective. 2 important pieces of advice from an aunt of mine who has been married 51 years to the same man:

Touch often be affectionate and supportive

Try to never say or do anything that will leave your partner with a negative association towards you and the relationship.
The point being to plan to be a mature adult in a healthy long term relationship. Are you capable of that?

Plan to visit her in person first before making any serious decisions.
 

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